Good Advise from Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends and Influence People

This is Dale Carnegie's summary of his book, from 1936

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People:

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Part Two

Six ways to make people like you:

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Part Three

Win people to your way of thinking:

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Part Four

Be A Leader: How to Change People Withoutgiving Offense or Arousing Resentment:

A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

I came across this a while ago. I wanted to pass this along to you all.

Kim Peek - The Real Rain Man [1/5]

This is a very cool video. If you want to know more about dysfuntional brain disorders, please see www.nodcc.org or http://www.umaine.edu/edhd/research/accnetwork.htm. This video is about 10 minutes long.

Philippians 4:8

"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things" (NIV)

WOW! Let's break this down a bit. Yes, the words are easy to grasp and understand. Think about things that are genuine or sincere. Okay, so what are some things that are genuine in our daily lives? Focusing on what we know to be fact...God loves us always and unconditionally...is one sure fact. Realize this. Rejoice in this fact. Let it capitivate your heart, mind, and soul. Noble pertains to an exalted moral or mental character. To think this way daily would keep our hearts and minds clear of any gossip, trash tv, trash internet and anything that would crush our moral character (being). Thinking on things that are right is to think about things that are proper or just. Hmmmm, this can be tough. Proper and just thoughts are not thinking ill will on someone...no matter what the offense. Pure thoughts...well this should be an easy thing for us right? Pure means to be free from blemishes. In thinking purely we do not allow any thought to take hold of our mind that would mar our heart or mind. To think about things that are lovely is to think on things that are delightful and highly pleasing. There are so many things that we can list that are pleasing to think about...all of God's creations; the beauty of landscapes, lakes, skies, children laughing, smiles on our dear grandparent's faces, the list is endless of pleasing things to think about. Thinking about things that are admirable means to think on things that inspire approval or reverence. Well, to me that sounds like thinking about God...taking time to BE with Him. Our days are to be filled with thinking about things that are excellent and praiseworthy. If we are consumed by thinking on all of the things listed in Philippians 4:8 we definitely do not have time to fill any of our thinking with the negatives of life. Oh there are many negative things I could list but choose not to because then your thoughts would be on the negative and I want to leave you with thinking on true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy thoughts! For in such thinking, therein lies true joy, peace, and fulfillment in Christ Jesus our Lord.