Savior Complex...the belief one has that he/she is destined to become a savior. Of course Christians know in their heart of hearts that there is only One true Savior...and our Savior will be with us in Heaven some day. Christ, our Savior, truly does bring us out of our negative lifestyle.
When I write of one having a "Savior Complex" I am not delving deep into the TRUE meaning of the type of person with a personality disorder...I am writing about an individual who SO desires to see the best in someone thinking that THEY can "lift them out" of their lifestyle and habits. Such a person knows that Jesus is the True way out of bad habits and because this person has such faith, they often "fall" for helping people who have repeatedly continued in their harmful ways.
There are countless life stories of a person seeking to help another from various addictions or habits only to be trampled. You may say, "Well, Lariann, we ARE to pattern after Christ and He didn't give up on people." It is very true that Jesus never gives up on a person. BUT, consider the rich young ruler. His story can be found in Luke 18:18-27. "The story of the rich ruler is a perfect example of the grace that God extends us. The rich young ruler asked Jesus what he must do to inherit eternal life, to which Jesus told him that he must sell all he had and come follow him. The man went away sad because he had much. The crowd confusedly asked how anyone could be saved if this was what was required of them. Jesus replied that with God all things are possible." (Biblegateway)
We may see ourselves as extending "grace" to a person who continually carries on in their old ways...not wanting to give them up for whatever reasons. They may appear to improve at times but that is part of their life cycle...sad to say.
So, there comes a time where we need to talk with God our Father; seeking His wisdom in dealing with people. We need to pray for wisdom and discernment. If in dealing with someone who doesn't seem to change their bad ways, we simply need to "disconnect" and leave them in the hands of Father. He knows the person inside out!
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My sister-in-law and I had this conversation over the 4th week-end about certain family members. Her comment was that if we are to be Christlike then we must continue to reach out. I suppose that's easy enough to do when you don't live so close. We agreed to disagree. Forgiveness is one thing, being a doormat or a target is completely different. Pray for them, but distance yourself and follow His leading. Good subject! : )
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